On the subway to denser areas, this middle-aged Italian woman (very happy/friendly) personality just started talking to me. And she persisted. Cool, I’ll take the warm up opportunity. She was super cool and we continued chatting on the subway. If only she were 15 years younger!
Got up earlier, and did my first approach at 11 AM. Note – getting up early is AWESOME. It just feels great (even though it’s hard as hell to wake up), and I think there’s less possibility for mental excuses (e.g. “oh I should go hang out with friends”) since everyone is at work or sleeping. It also gives me much more time to approach in the day, which I think is the best strategy. Ideally, I’d do my first approach at 9. Let’s not get too ambitious and work our way there.
So, getting up early and having this warm up, I was feeling great… But, the cold streak from yesterday continued. In fact, it kept going, and going… Until… Lucky number 13. It took 12 rejections before a girl said she’d want to grab a drink and exchanged contact info. That’s what, a 19 rejection-straight cold streak. I am super proud of myself for not letting this get to me. 19 straight rejections (many of them pretty harsh like one girl rolling her eyes and sauntering away and many others just fleeing).
There are many things that could have caused that cold streak (maybe time of day? location? my mood?). I tend to think it’s really just random – my chances of success with any girl is random. Though, it was particularly weird because the successes were batched together. Maybe I’m getting better? Maybe I was more warmed up (my successes did happen at the end of the day).
I managed 4 numbers today. All pretty solid – I’m pretty excited!
Keys: be more persistent! One of the best numbers came from a girl I normally would have let walk away, but I walked with her. Turns out we have a lot in common – and she’s successful / very cute! Slow down when speaking. Be calm. Let them know you’re not a crazy, homless guy begging. Do NOT let rejection get you down – it’s a random function!
Random idea to find more mid-twenties girls: look at rent map of manhattan, go to cheaper places!
Anyway, I gotta jet to a date!
- 21 countable approaches (20 direct street!)
- 4 to follow up on
- went on 1 date
- Getting up early is GREAT!
- Persistence! Give it a few tries before giving up on a girl!
- Dry streaks appear to be a thing I’ll have to deal with
- Funniest rejection: girl just rolled her eyes and walked away. Another: foreigners dad came out of building and I had to explain to him I was hitting on his daughter.