OK, I think today was my favorite day so far.
Not only was the weather awesome (note – this may actually make a big difference when approaching strangers – girls seem more receptive/friendly/happy… oh why did I pick February). I also had an important business meeting at the end of the day, so I was dressed especially well (not a suit or over the top, but definitely nicely… note that I generally tend to dress well… *cough* metro).
OK, started the day with huge anxiety. I actually had a biz meeting first. And I remember just not being in a super friendly/conversational mood. I was more quiet. Socializing to me is like turning the lights on in a pitch black room. My eyes have trouble adjusting, especially at first. I want nothing more than to just go back to that comfortable place with the lights off. But once my eyes have adjusted, I can see all of my bedroom’s Katy Perry posters and am all the better off for it.
So, I had that same “Oh shit, I shouldn’t be doing this. It’s weird. I should just work more. I am tired” feeling. Got over it quickly. Maybe this is another theory in the making?
One big change I’ve noticed is that my typical interaction is markedly different. I could go digging in my data to support this claim, but it’s almost more qualitative. I feel like the general interaction is now the two of us having fun. Even if she has a boyfriend, or married, or not into my dorkly type, we’re generally joking around/having a good time.
Cool! Huh? I wonder what other changes I’ll see. Also, the big question to me is: is this really a skill? or is there just a base level of proficiency? (this has big implications!)
Other random thought – I need to stop wasting time in low density areas. I spend most of my time just meandering around. I’m going to focus more on hot spots to increase efficency. Looks like I’m clocking a steady 5 approaches per hour on average. I wonder how high I can get that
Also, I know I said I would do at least 5 days/week. But… I *may* need to take more breaks between days/posting. For several reasons:
- Process the onslaught of data I get from each day / date
- Figure out ways to tweak what I’m doing based on learnings
- Focus on follow up / dates (still have only gone out once!)
- May need to do more work – you know, the thing that brings in money.
Right after my first approach, I had perhaps my best interaction so far. Totally my type – very cute blond girl. We just chatted, had this great chemistry. I remember when I asked her if she wanted to hang out, she was like “maybe”, which caught me off guard. So I said something like “What will turn that maybe into a yes?”, and she was just immediately like “Yes. Let’s do it”.
Side note: OK ladies I’m calling you out. WTF is up with all of this hard to get stuff? It’s a pattern I’m noticing (ESPECIALLY with getting you sassy sisters out on dates). It’s definitely teaching me that I need to be super persistent… You brought this on yourselves! 🙂
Soon after, I ran into this girl that I just started talking to (I tend to have random conversations with people throughout the day for the lolz / keep the gears greased). I don’t think she was my type (and might be a little old), and I didn’t stop her like I would a girl I was in to. But holy hell did we hit it off. She was making the same bad jokes I did – and laughing at my other ones. Really cool chica. We exchanged contact info… Looks like it might be a friend!
I also ran into this drop-dead gorgeous girl (observation – the very, very pretty girls seem totally cool with this kind of thing. Strange.). We had a great conversation, but she’s had a long term bf. So we became fbook friends in case she’s ever single (note fbook confirms she’s a model.).
Also, another gorgeous girl (who did exchange contact info) works as a makeup artist for lots of famous and important people… Kind of cool. I would *never* run into someone like that in my normal day to day. Let alone potentially go out with her!
- Got anxiety again before warming up… I think this just happens. This is good to note ‘cuz I can just acknowledge it’s happening and power through
- Interactions are MUCH better now. Most cases we’re smiling even if she has a bf/isn’t interested
- I am finding some very pretty and cool girls! I ❤ NY!
- 17 countable approaches
- 2 follow ups + 2 more long term (fbook – live father away, in relationship now)
- 0 “flee instantlys” (OK ok, 2 what I term “happy flees”. Meaning they smile, look happy, maybe say something like “have a bf, or thanks” and jet)